Egregoros

what are ways you ground yourself and become comfortable socially in large groups of strangers?

I know I'm safe, but I don't feel safe for whatever reason

I enjoy these people's company, I'm glad to be there, but I'm on guard and mentally shutting down. how do I stop this

As a teenager I got rid of my public fear by volunteering to run an jrotc awards ceremony while [redacted] because if you turn it into a fetish then you can conquer it

@tyler this isn't fear. I'm not afraid of talking to people. I'm just noticing I'm guarding myself, withdrawing and giving hostile body language instead of open and inviting body language

I am saying turn the uncomfortableness into a fetish to be conquered. This may or may not be good advice, i am going insane dealing with this washer machine.

@tyler have you thought about having sex with the washing machine

Sometimes I motivate myself to do chores around the house or fix things by imagining myself as my wife's sex slave where I might have a chance if I do these things, although that part is not dependent on my performance elsewhere, I do still fetishize it because it improves my day to day performance