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LADIES OF FEDI (all uhhhhh three of you (OH maybe some spinsterfriends?)): I have a VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION. TLDR: about hair
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STORYTIME - I used to think I had straight hair because my mother has very straight hair and I always kept it as long as it would grow (never "cut," only trimmed). HOWEVER, in recent years I have cut it to the shortest it's ever been (which is still long for some people.... maybe bottom of my shoulderblades?) and I have BANGS again, and I have learned that I actually inherited my father's wavy hair. BECAUSE MY BANGS KEEP FLIPPING ALL OVER THE PLACE. THE OTHER DAY IT LOOKED LIKE A GIANT MUSTACHE ON MY HEAD :blobcatohnoes: But the rest of my hair is still long enough that it doesn't show the "wave" :thinkeyes:

SO

The question I pose to you: do I cut my hair more to see the wave? I LOVE long hair and I didn't even cut it to this (still "long" ish) length for... look I'm not telling you my age, you can guess :blobglare: but the point is I'm nervous and WHAT IF IT LOOKS HORRIBLE :blobcat_sad: Maybe I should cut it in increments? I just want to see if it would look nice with the waaaave (and maybe make my bangs look not as silly) AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA Help me ladies, I never thought I had wavy hair and have no idea how to make it look even more rad (or at least not silly) on me :blob_cool:

Thank you for reading my TED talk, pls send help :crackCat2:

Only Extremely thin women can pull off short hair. Every single man on the planet will tell you to keep it long. I can pull off a chin length Bob, with sleek and shaggy, and I look great with baby bangs, but I always grow it back out. My hair grows Painfully slow. So I guess, are you Extremely thin? And how fast does your hair grow? Sometimes while contemplating a shirt cut, all you see are how they look on 9s and 10s. Try to look at before afters of "average" women before you dive in to the deep end. Also, how deep is your trust in your hairdresser? If you can convince them to be brutally honest, they should have enough experience to know exactly how happy someone of your age, weight, and face shape will be with the outcome of various cut options you present to them.

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Short hair is kind of like a fat dude. If you have a good face it doesnt matter, but if you dont its not attractive. (I am not trying to insult either of your appearances by the way) honestly I dont even know what you look like. I had seen a photo of colleen once but I am terrible at visualizing faces from memory.

I'm about 115lbs at 5'3" - I wouldn't say extremely thin but it seems to be good for me.
I don't think I could ever do chin-length, that is much too scary for me :pepe_nervous:
Hm, I don't pay much attention to how quickly my hair grows since I just trim the ends once or twice a year. To that end, my trust in my hair dresser is: my hairdresser is ME. So none at all :smug_cat:
>Every single man on the planet will tell you to keep it long.

My wife tried the short haircut after we had been married three or four years. I did my very best not to be honest about what I thought about it, but I didn’t do a very good job apparently because she grew it out and never cut it short again.

I always trim my own hair and I never let anyone else cut my bangs, but if you're going drastic, please take it to a professional. And not just any professional, scout them out, like whenever you go out for groceries, eyeball nearby hairdressers. You Can and Should judge a book by its cover. Save lots of images of possible cuts, give it a few weeks, and if you still feel strongly, take your ideas to your appointment and let the hairdresser explain pros and cons of each style. I always operate on the side of caution, because it takes me a good four years to grow mine out.

@ShowMeYourLibrary @scenesbycolleen >Only Extremely thin women can pull off short hair.

Thin women with good chin and jawline definition. The area that men can hide with a good beard, we cannot. You can think that you look good with short, short hair when looking in a mirror, but then see a pic of you from any other angle and look fucking dreadful. Trust, it always seems like a good idea until it isn't.