Egregoros

@kernow it causes physical and mental pain

@Ghislaine I've never experienced that

@Ghislaine I'm not saying I disbelieve you. Can you describe the pain and how it affects you?

@kernow it's hard to describe but it makes me really angry hearing somebody deciding to inflict it for a stupid reason

@Ghislaine it seems like a relationship nuke under the normal arrangement

@Ghislaine my friends irl confided in me they can go a week maybe two without. Longer and they get shakes

@kernow @Ghislaine it's especially painful for the first year or so but the pain dulls a bit as time goes on and you get accustomed to thugging it out. the worse part now is the feeling that I'm wasting the prime of my youth, which I'll never get to experience again.

@kernow @Ghislaine not everyone is fit to transcend the senses I suppose

Sex shouldn't be the be all end all for a relationship etc etc but it's usually a good indicator; a couple going from their typical pace to absolutely none is pretty catastrophic. Ime it's a mix of everything that causes it to absolutely suck. the repeated rejection gets to you eventually and depending on the circumstances it can just overall be a very weird vibe shift within the relationship where nothing feels quite right