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not enough talk about the ai boyfriend thing. you can write articles on futurism and wired about those lonely weird men roleplaying with ai girlfriends but not all those women on reddit just ruining their perception of reality because now theyre comparinmg real men to a thing that just agrees with them all the time. at least those lonely men by and large know they're playing with hyperreality

men do this with regular porn of course (thinking women should be like that) though this is well trodden territory for writers. the fact remains this is a thing that is happening to lots of women and they're choosing not to write about it much. i have theory of why but it's sexist.

@sun Actually not quite, there's a few modern medical papers showing that woman can get excited by imagination/reading while males are more visual, which is why a lot of people says that smut novels on woman has the same effect as porn on male brains

@kumicota popular media, science covers it generally. big gap.

@kumicota as an example you could write a shitty but true article about how ai boyfriends are the new smutty romance novel and shaming them but its never happening

@sun yeah, it's like how a girl doing only fans isn't shunned but a man who subs to an only fans is, society in general still sees woman as a purer being than men in general and the truth is more complex than the fiction

@sun to be clear. A lot of this happens in reverse too, where woman are judged as being worse or less in a field than a man and both of them are bad

@kumicota i don't want to single out women for bad behavior. basically though at this point i have to completely discard feminism as an academic and activist model. it is bad and wrong. not the same as saying i believe sexism is good, just its a geocentric explanation for planetary motion. it observes something, its just wrong

@sun @kumicota

This is too much of a blanket statement. This is like saying "religion bad" and not elaborating

Willing to bet most men on here can't even name each women's liberation movement and it's milestones

@subnetter @kumicota I am talking about second wave "radfem" and onward

@subnetter @kumicota men and women are still oppressed, mainly by men.

@sun @kumicota and what framework exists to correct that, if not feminism?

What problem do you have with 2nd wave feminism? I don't think we would have the same critiques

@subnetter @kumicota everyone sane agrees women should have equal rights and opportunity and respect. over time I have decided that patriarchy theory isn't the overarching oppression framework, most real structural issues come from different places for example money